5 signs youre dealing with a toxic parent as an adult and how to cope
One of clinical psychologist Craig Malkin’s clients grew up with a father who responded to any display of emotion with some variation of “you need to grow a thicker skin” or “you need to learn to let things go.” This led to a lot of shame and confusion around his own emotions, a struggle that followed him into adulthood.
One of the clinical psychologists leading this charge is Craig Malkin, whose 2015 book Rethinking Narcissism begins with an anecdote about his own mother, crediting her “warmth, optimism, and activism” to the conviction that she was special, and therefore could affect change in the world. Narcissistic behavior, Malkin posits, isn’t just for “arrogant jerks or sociopaths.”
According to Dr. Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist and lecturer for Harvard Medical School, narcissism is a normal personality trait which exists on a curve and impacts everyone in the world; full-fledged, clinical NPD, which affects roughly six percent of the population, is extremely rare.
Clinical psychologist and Harvard Medical School lecturer Craig Malkin argues that the core of all narcissism is “a pervasive, universal human tendency: the drive to feel special, exceptional, unique.”
In this episode, Dr. Malkin broke down the behaviors of pathological narcissism as exhibited by Mr. Trump. We discuss how it is actually simpler for the spouse of a narcissist to recognize narcissism in their partner than for a clinician (who has very limited information). We also talk about mutual abuse and reactive abuse, about whether narcissists are conscious that they are narcissists, and about the dark tetrad of psychopathy, sadism, narcissism, and Machiavellianism. Click here to listen.
In this episode, Harvard psychologist and narcissism expert and author Dr. Craig Malkin talks with Dr. Supriya McKenna and Karin Walker about how one can protect their children from becoming narcissistic, even when they have a narcissistic parent. They also discuss the difficulties encountered in dating when one has had a previous narcissistic relationship, to do with attraction, chemistry, trust, and relating in new ways. Click here to listen.
Dr. Malkin explains the importance of feeling one's anger when one is a victim of narcissistic abuse. We also talk about social media, and how this can have a part to play in some narcissistic individuals. Click here to listen.
Dr. Malkin talks about the concept of the psychotic spiral, and how during a narcissistic collapse narcissists may even become delusional in their thinking. We also discuss therapy for narcissists, and what Dr. Malkin's experience of this has been. Click here to listen.
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